Attachment Style and Marriage

Attachment styles in marriage refer to the way that individuals bond and connect with their partners. These attachment styles can have a profound impact on the quality and stability of a marriage.

There are four main attachment styles: secure, anxious-preoccupied, dismissive-avoidant, and fearful-avoidant. Individuals with a secure attachment style tend to have positive relationships with their partners and are comfortable with intimacy and emotional closeness. They are able to trust their partners and rely on them for support.

On the other hand, individuals with an anxious-preoccupied attachment style may have a strong desire for intimacy and connection but may struggle with trust and dependence. They may be overly clingy or jealous in their relationships, leading to conflict and insecurity.

Those with a dismissive-avoidant attachment style may have a fear of intimacy and a tendency to distance themselves from their partners. They may struggle with commitment and find it difficult to open up and be vulnerable.

Finally, individuals with a fearful-avoidant attachment style may have a mix of anxious and avoidant tendencies. They may want closeness and intimacy, but at the same time fear rejection and abandonment. This can lead to a cycle of pursuing and withdrawing in relationships.

It is important to note that attachment styles are not set in stone and can change over time. However, understanding one's attachment style can be helpful in addressing any potential issues in a marriage and working towards a more secure and satisfying relationship.

Chris Cambas, LMFT, Certified Gottman Therapist & Trainer, Relationship Expert, Co-Founder of CoupleStrong
CEO of National Marriage Seminars & The Practice Startup. (813)960-0001